Com, thousands of people congregate to swap horror stories about relationships with "narcs. In the selfishness of others, the essayist kristin Dombek provides a clear-sighted account of how a rare clinical diagnosis became a fluid cultural phenomenon, friendship, a repository for our deepest fears about love, and family.
They manipulate, cheat, lie, and steal. And finally, she shares her own story in a candid effort to find a path away from the cycle of fear and blame and toward a more forgiving and rewarding life. And it's more prevalent than ever, according to recent articles in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time.
The Selfishness of Others: An Essay on the Fear of Narcissism - They are irresistibly charming and accomplished, appearing to live in a radiance beyond what we are capable of. They're among us, but they are not like us. No one knows exactly what everyone else is full of--some kind of a soul, or personhood--but whatever it is, experts agree that narcissists do not have it.
So goes the popular understanding of narcissism, or NPD narcissistic personality disorder. She cuts through hysteria in search of the razor-thin line between pathology and common selfishness, writing with robust skepticism toward the prophets of NPD and genuine empathy for those who see themselves as its victims.
Against Everything: EssaysVintage - Four of the selections address, directly and unironically, the meaning of life—how to find a philosophical stance to adopt toward one’s self and the world. Named one of the best books of the year by:the guardian • the atlantic • new york magazine • San Francisco Chronicle • Paris Review • National Post Canada Longlisted for the 2017 PEN Diamonson-Spielvogel Award for the Art of the Essay.
Finalist for the national book critics circle awardThe essays in Against Everything are learned, highly entertaining, original, and, from start to finish, dead serious, reinventing and reinvigorating what intellectuals can be and say and do. Mark greif manages to revivify the thought and spirit of the greatest of American dissenters, Henry David Thoreau, for our time and historical situation.
Against Everything: Essays - Key topics are the tyranny of exercise, the folly of food snobbery, the impact of protest movements, the uses of reality TV, the sexualization of childhood and everything else, the philosophical meaning of pop music, the rise and fall of the hipster, and the crisis of policing.
Against Everything: EssaysPantheon - . As william deresiewicz has written in Harper’s Magazine, “Mark Greif is an intellectual, full stop. A brilliant collection of essays by a young writer who is already a star in the intellectual firmament. These essays address such key topics in the cultural, the sexualization of childhood and everything else, and intellectual life of our time as the tyranny of exercise, the rise and fall of the hipster, the philosophical meaning of Radiohead, political, the impact of the Occupy Wall Street movement, the tyranny of nutrition and food snobbery, and the crisis of policing.
They are the work of a young intellectual who, with his peers, is reinventing and reinvigorating what intellectuals can be and say and do. Much also of Susan Sontag. There is much of Lionel Trilling in Greif. Pantheon Books. Mark greif manages to reincarnate and revivify the thought and spirit of the greatest of American dissenters, Henry David Thoreau, for our time and historical situation.
Against Everything: Essays - Four of the selections address, directly and unironically, the meaning of life—what might be the right philosophical stance to adopt toward one’s self and the world. Each essay in against everything is learned, and, from start to finish, original, highly entertaining, dead serious.
300 Arguments: EssaysGraywolf Press - Manguso’s arguments about desire, and failure are pithy, ambition, relationships, and defiant, unsentimental, and they add up to an unexpected and renegade wisdom literature. Both the same fantasy: I’ll escape the worst of it. From 300 argumentsa “proustian minimalist on the order of Lydia Davis” Kirkus Reviews, Sarah Manguso is one of the finest literary artists at work today.
Thank heaven i don’t have my friends’ problems. Bad art is from no one to no one. Am i happy? damned if i know, but give me a few minutes and I’ll tell you whether you are. Graywolf Press. I read sad stories to inoculate myself against grief. Jam-packed with insights you’ll want to both text to your friends and tattoo on your skin….
300 Arguments: Essays - A sweeping view of a human mind trying to make order of the world around us. Celeste ng, author of little fires everywhere There will come a time when people decide you’ve had enough of your grief, and they’ll try to take it away from you. But sometimes i notice an expression on one of their faces that I recognize as secret gratitude.
Pantheon Books. But, as in the work of david Markson, the pieces reveal themselves as a masterful arrangement that steadily gathers power.
The ArgonautsGraywolf Press - Nelson's insistence on radical individual freedom and the value of caretaking becomes the rallying cry of this thoughtful, unabashed, uncompromising book. An intrepid voyage out to the frontiers of the latest thinking about love, language, and family Maggie Nelson's The Argonauts is a genre-bending memoir, fierce, identity, a work of "autotheory" offering fresh, and timely thinking about desire, and the limitations and possibilities of love and language.
Writing in the spirit of public intellectuals such as Susan Sontag and Roland Barthes, Nelson binds her personal experience to a rigorous exploration of what iconic theorists have said about sexuality, gender, and the vexed institutions of marriage and child-rearing. At its center is a romance: the story of the author's relationship with the artist Harry Dodge.
The Argonauts - This story, who is fluidly gendered, as well as her journey to and through a pregnancy, which includes Nelson's account of falling in love with Dodge, offers a firsthand account of the complexities and joys of queer family-making. Graywolf Press. The Argonauts. Pantheon Books.
Too Much and Not the Mood: EssaysFSG Originals - Pantheon Books. Fsg Originals. Named a best book of 2017 by npr, comes "a warmly considered meld of criticism and memoir" new yorker, insightful essayists and critics” Nylon, The Guardian, “one of our most gifted, Slate, NYLON and The Globe and Mail Canada From Durga Chew-Bose, a lyrical and piercingly insightful debut collection of essays about identity and culture.
Too much and not the mood is a beautiful and surprising exploration of what it means to be a first-generation, creative young woman working today. On april 11, 1931, virginia woolf ended her entry in a writer’s diary with the words “too much and not the mood” to describe her frustration with placating her readers, what she described as the “cramming in and the cutting out.
Too Much and Not the Mood: Essays - She wondered if she had anything at all that was truly worth saying. Graywolf Press. Drawing inspiration from a diverse group of incisive and inquiring female authors, Chew-Bose captures the inner restlessness that keeps her always on the brink of creative expression. The Argonauts. The attitude of that sentiment inspired Durga Chew-Bose to gather own writing in this lyrical collection of poetic essays that examine personhood and artistic growth.
The Lonely City: Adventures in the Art of Being AlonePicador - Fsg Originals. Pantheon Books. Increasingly fascinated by the most shameful of experiences, she began to explore the lonely city by way of art. Moving from edward hopper’s nighthawks to andy warhol’s time capsules, laing conducts an electric, dazzling investigation into what it means to be alone, from Henry Darger’s hoarding to David Wojnarowicz’s AIDS activism, illuminating not only the causes of loneliness but also how it might be resisted and redeemed.
Humane, adrift from the larger continent of human experience, and moving, The Lonely City is a celebration of a strange and lovely state, provocative, but intrinsic to the very act of being alive. The Argonauts. Graywolf Press. Finalist for the national book critics circle award in criticism#1 book of the year from brain pickingsnamed a best book of the year by NPR, Newsweek, and Lit HubA dazzling work of biography, told through the lives of iconic artists, and cultural criticism on the subject of loneliness, Publishers Weekly, memoir, Pop Sugar, Elle, Slate, Marie Claire, by the acclaimed author of The Trip to Echo Spring.
The Lonely City: Adventures in the Art of Being Alone - When olivia laing moved to New York City in her midthirties, she found herself inhabiting loneliness on a daily basis. Picador USA.
Rewriting: How to Do Things with Texts, Second EditionUtah State University Press - But for intellectuals, unlike many other writers, what we have to say is bound up with the books we are reading. The Argonauts. Pantheon Books. Like all writers, intellectuals need to say something new and say it well. Harris wants college writers to think of intellectual writing as an adaptive and social activity, and he offers them a clear set of strategies—a set of moves—for participating in it.
. The second edition introduces remixing as an additional signature move and is updated with new attention to digital writing, which both extends and rethinks the ideas of earlier chapters. And the ideas of the people we are talking with. What are the moves that an academic writer makes? how does writing as an intellectual change the way we work from sources? In Rewriting, Joseph Harris draws the college writing student away from static ideas of thesis, and structure, support, and toward a more mature and dynamic understanding.
Rewriting: How to Do Things with Texts, Second Edition - Graywolf Press. Fsg Originals. Picador USA.
Unfuck Your Adulting: Give Yourself Permission, Carry Your Own Baggage, Don't Be a Dick, Make Decisions, & Other Life SkillsMicrocosm Publishing - Making maturity fun again! Dr. Keep these hot tips around for when you’re making big decisions, dealing with difficult situations, or to give to a friend or kid who’s making any kind of big life transition. Graywolf Press. The truth is, adulting is way more fun than kidding. The Argonauts. Faith explains the fundamentals of adulting in this expanded version of her mini pocket zine.
Fsg Originals. Spoiler: none of the requirements are about having certain jobs, possessions + debts, kids, or being totally bored and stressed out and hating your life. It’s hard work to do adulty stuff well, but the kind of work that’s satisfying because it’s about being good to yourself and other people and building a life that you’re okay with waking up to every day.
Unfuck Your Adulting: Give Yourself Permission, Carry Your Own Baggage, Don't Be a Dick, Make Decisions, & Other Life Skills - Picador USA. You got this! Pantheon Books.
I Love Dick Semiotexte / Native AgentsSemiotext(e) - Pantheon Books. I love dick is a manifesto for a new kind of feminist who isn't afraid to burn through her own narcissism in order to assume responsibility for herself and for all the injustice in world and it's a book you won't put down until the author's final, heroic acts of self-revelation and transformation.
It's no wonder that i Love Dick instantly elicited violent controversies and attracted a host of passionate admirers. But when the theorist refuses to answer her letters, the husband and wife continue the correspondence for each other instead, imagining the fling the wife wishes to have with Dick. What follows is a breathless pursuit that takes the woman across America and away from her husband and far beyond her original infatuation into a discovery of the transformative power of first person narrative.
I Love Dick Semiotexte / Native Agents - The Argonauts. The story is gripping enough: in 1994 a married, failed independent filmmaker, turning forty, falls in love with a well-known theorist and endeavors to seduce him with the help of her husband. Graywolf Press. Picador USA. Fsg Originals. A self-described failed filmmaker falls obsessively in love with her theorist-husband's colleague: a manifesto for a new kind of feminism and the power of first-person narration.
In i love dick, author of aliens & anorexia, chris kraus, Torpor, published in 1997, and Video Green, boldly tore away the veil that separates fiction from reality and privacy from self-expression.
Pretentiousness: Why It MattersCoffee House Press - Pantheon Books. Fsg Originals. Picador USA. Coffee House Pr. Graywolf Press. Why do we choose accusations of elitism over open-mindedness? what do our anxieties about "pretending" say about us?Co-editor of frieze, interviews, Europe's foremost magazine of contemporary art and culture, Dan Fox has authored over two hundred essays, and reviews and contributed to numerous catalogues and publications produced by major international art galleries and institutions.
The Argonauts. Pretentiousness is for anyone who has braved being different, whether that's making a stand against artistic consensus or running the gauntlet of the last bus home dressed differently from everyone else. It's an essential ingredient in pop music and high art.